Day 235: Capture

It couldn’t have lasted more than ten minutes. Maybe only five.

I slept in this morning and didn’t get the coffee going until around 8:30am. By the time it had stopped dripping, I could hear other family members starting to move about.

I took my book and my coffee out onto the front porch, followed by the dog and the cat. For about ten or fifteen minutes, I sat quietly and read, while the animals scouted about.

My wife joined me with her coffee, and we chatted for a little about our plans for the day. A few minutes later, my middle child came to join us. The three of us sat on the bench that looks out over the yard and watched the sky, trying to decide whether or not those thunderstorms we were expecting would actually arrive.

Then my oldest boy joined us. The bench was full at this point, so he took a seat on the porch swing, sipping his own cup of coffee.

The last out to join us was our youngest, wrapped in her blanket. She crawled up into the porch swing and cuddled against her older brother.

And that’s when it struck me that we were all there— and how rare it was for all five of us (plus the dog and the cat) to gather together like this on a morning.

Like I said: the moment soon passed. In just five or ten minutes, folks started to wander off to attend to their various callings. But for that one moment, we were there, together: seven living creatures whose lives are deeply interconnected–and I was present to witness it.

No, I didn’t feel the urge to run and get my phone to capture the moment in a photograph. I was simply grateful to be able to capture the experience, as I was experiencing it, in my heart and my mind.

 

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Day 234: Focus

Well, as I promised I would do yesterday, today I tried to focus on just one small thing, something to remind me of how simple it can be to live simply. So I dug back into my toolbox to one of the simplest “challenges” of the past 234 days: just sit.

Today was another long day of meetings spread out all over campus. My first meeting was at 9am. I pulled into a campus parking lot close to my destination somewhere just before 8:45. I had just a few minutes’ walk ahead of me, so I just stood there (OK, not technically sitting I realize, but close enough!) and watched the fog start to roll in over the mountains. I tried not to think about what I needed to do next, and instead I just watched the clouds and fog move across the sky.

Then off I walked to my first destination of the day and had my meeting. After that appointment, I scrambled across campus for my second rendezvous, but not without pausing for a moment on a walkway up some stairs to look out at the clouds again. A light rain had started to fall, but instead of dashing off toward the building I was heading toward, I let myself linger in the light falling mist.

And then I was off to my next meeting. And so on.

Throughout the day, I took a moment to pause whenever I could. Sometimes for four or five minutes, and sometimes just for a brief moment. Regardless of the length of time, though, I gave myself those moments to just be where I was, right then and right there–not between appointments, but in the moment.

It was a minor victory, but an important one. I needed a reminder of how easy it is to return to the most basic practice of being present–just by stopping, looking, and listening.

 

 

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Day 233: Transition

I’ve  noticed something recently, which has made a little concerned: I have struggled more in the past week or so writing this blog than I have over the past 32 weeks. I don’t think I am “running out of steam,” but I do realize that I am transitioning from a period of intense, focused activity–all driven toward a very quantifiable and measurable change–into a period of settling and integrating. “Taking action” is just a little harder to measure.

But rather than beating myself up for this, I’ve been trying to allow myself this period of transition. By no means am I “done” with this project–and really, once the year is up, I still won’t be finished….

So maybe tomorrow I will think of something simple. Just one, simple act to serve as a waypoint, marking where I am at right now, and where this path may be leading me.

I was going to end this post right there, but I thought I would add just one more thing, random as it may be. As I was walking into the kitchen this morning to start the coffee, I suddenly remembered: I have four tons of stuff stored somewhere in North Carolina!

I looked around, and I couldn’t imagine what I would do with that stuff, or why I had it in the first place.

That shift in perspective is a transition in its own right, I would say.

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Day 232: Relate

I’m still very much “the new guy” on campus, but I am starting to find “my tribe.” This morning, for example, I spent an hour over coffee talking with two other faculty members from another department about overlapping research interests and opportunities for collaboration. I have two similar meetings scheduled for later in the week as well. Sure, the academic work we are discussing is interesting, but what was really exciting about today’s conversation, and the promise of Friday’s as well, is realizing that I am starting to make connections. And as I build these professional relationships, I am starting to see how I fit in with my colleagues–what new perspectives I bring, and what new perspectives I can gain.

I’m also starting to learn about little locations around campus where I “fit in”–spaces and places that I can “relate to,” to use that old hippie term, where I think I will enjoy working and hanging out. You see, my building sits on top of a hill, making it the highest academic building on campus. I love the location–there is a nature trail behind the building, and the stairs up to the courtyard are lined with flower and vegetable gardens. But given how far away we sit from other academic buildings, if I have more than one meeting in the main campus area, it makes it impractical to to go back and forth to my office. Which means on days like today, I end up spending plenty of time working in random locations around campus between meetings, rather than hiking back up the hill. And I have certainly found some pleasant places to work–as well as places simply to sit and observe.

Yes, I’m still exploring, still discovering, and still finding my place.

And so far, I’m enjoying it.

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Day 231: Reschedule

My geriatric semi-wild cat was quite disgruntled this morning.

We have built a nice morning routine together over the past three weeks. I get the coffee going, shave, and then when the coffee is ready, I pour myself a cup and head out to the front porch, with the cat trailing behind me. I sit quietly and sip my coffee, while she begins to prowl (in a manner befitting her advanced age, of course).

But not this morning.

With the start of a new school year, I am having to adjust those morning routines. In fact, we are having to build an entirely new set of morning routines. Back in the spring, we were a fairly well-oiled machine in the mornings. But now, we have new school destinations, new commute times, and new morning starts. Everything is going to take a little tinkering.

The afternoon offered a similar challenge–having to leave my campus in time to reach my son’s high school by dismissal… only to discover that with the back-up of other parents’ cars picking up their kids, I will need to leave fifteen minutes earlier or fifteen minutes later to avoid waiting in a long line.

My oldest boy and I planned to go to the university gym after school to do a little climbing… which led to another schedule adjustment. With all of the students coming back to the university, we had another wait–apparently the climbing area has a maximum occupancy, and that number had been reached.

So…we ended up staying out later than I thought. Which meant I didn’t have time to make dinner. Which meant we ended up eating out.

It’s now 10:30, and no one is asleep. I have a feeling tomorrow is going to be the really rough morning.

None of what I described above sounds anything like “living simply,” I know. I guess the point is: even though we have been in our new home for over a month now (and really only three weeks as the entire family), we are only just now beginning to adjust to a new schedule.

And it’s going to take some time to find a routine that works.

So in this instance, I think “simplicity” really means: having the patience to allow each of us to find our own way into that new routine.

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Day 230: Apportion

Sufficient unto the day are the committee meetings thereof.

It’s been a long first day of meetings at the university, and tomorrow will be the first day of classes. It is also the first day of school for my kids.

Tomorrow morning is going to be rough.

I’ve had a busy day, and a busy evening, but I’m sure that there is more for me to do today. More preparation for my own class. More preparation for the kids’ morning. More unpacking and more organizing. More thoughtful reflection on what it was that I did today to try to live my life more simply, more directly, and more deliberately.

But I think the real lesson for today, at this moment,  (one that I have reflected on before over the past 30+ weeks) is learning when to say “enough.” Sure, I could do more–but at what gain, and at what cost?

So I’m drawing a line on this day. It goes this far.

And that is enough.

 

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Day 229: Tour

IMG_2821I took the kids on another Sunday field trip–this time, quite literally to a field, on top of a ridge.

We went to Grayson Highlands Park, just over the line in Virginia, and just a couple of miles away from Mount Rogers. It’s the last weekend before school starts, so why not make the most of it and tour about.

We had a wonderful time. We packed a lunch, some climbing shoes, and a crash pad, and then drove through portions of North Carolina and Virginia that I had never seen before. And when we got there, the park in every way lived up to my expectations. There were boulders to climb, scrambles to, well, scramble. And of course: there were the wild ponies.

IMG_2823I’ve spent a lot of Sundays alone with all three of my kids–the result of my wife being on call from 9am-9pm most Sundays. I’d prefer to have full family outings, of course, but at the same time, I really do cherish these opportunities to be alone with my kids.

And of course, I cannot help but think, on each one of these Sundays, how short the time is that we have together as a family.

So tomorrow, I have a full day of meetings with faculty and administrators. And the day after that, classes start back for me and for my kids.

For today, though, it felt great to spend the day on top of the world, in the company of creatures, free and wild.

 

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Day 228: Localize

IMG_2810It turns out that our local community really is a local community. There are lots of locally owned businesses, and in fact, there is even a local discount card to encourage folks to buy from local merchants. We also have lots and lots of farm stands around, and a farmers’ market that is 40 years old and going strong.

And that’s where I started off my day. I’ve been away for the past few Saturdays, so this was my first trip–and I left with quite a bounty: tomatoes (two varieties), garlic, eggplant, goat cheese, and beets. I also met someone who is most likely (yet another) distant relative of my wife. She and her partner have started a farm about a mile up the ridge from where we live. Pretty cool, if you ask me.

Later in the day, we took a field trip out past Linville Falls to a dairy farm that makes its own cheese. We loaded up on cheddar, gouda, four different soft spreads–and some fried pies and home-made ice cream while we were at it. Then we parked on the porch and had ourselves a picnic with lots of cheese, plus the bread and tomatoes that we brought along with us.

I know I can’t get everything locally. It’s not as though I picked up an artisanal toilet flapper and some micro-brewed epoxy at the hardware store today for those household chores I need to tackle. Nor are we quite at the point where we can avoid the necessities of living on a budget and shopping at big box stores and grocery chains. But it does feel good to know that there is so much local available in our local community.

And it is good to start feeling more and more like one of those locals.

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Day 227: Tarry

OK, here we are–it’s the last weekend before classes start, for me and for my kids. I know there are things around my house that need my attention, but I think our time will be better spent between now and Monday morning enjoying each other’s company and enjoying the outdoors.

And did I mention that the weather will be perfect?

So there’s not too much content for today, other than to acknowledge that the kitchen needs to be organized better, and the boxes that are down in the basement need to be cleared out, and the bedroom still has its share of half-unpacked boxes as well.

But all of that will wait for another 72 hours, I’m sure.

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Day 226: Pocket

Once upon a time, there was a would-be minimalist and sometime adherent of Thoreau-by-way-of-Gautama-and-Fox, who told himself he would remember to stow away his cell phone as often as he could, as a way of helping him to be more present and in the moment.

And then he forgot.

Following on yesterday’s theme: it’s amazing how quickly familiarity can set in, and how easily I can stop attending to all that is still so very new all around me.

I caught myself walking across campus today, oblivious of my surroundings, trying to catch up on my email. I think of it as a kind of technology-induced sleepwalking.

So much for monotasking.

But I did catch myself. So I stuck my phone into my pocket and started to pay attention. And it was worth it.

Later today, after dinner, I hopped on my new bike (well, new for me–it’s actually a pretty old bike) and pedaled just a mile and a half up the Parkway to a west-facing overlook. The sun hadn’t quite dropped behind Grandfather Mountain, but it was getting there. I stopped for a moment, just to appreciate the beauty in front of me.

Then I hopped back on my bike, pedaled back home, and asked my daughter if she would like to see the prettiest sunset ever. She was in the middle of watching a DVD, but as I pointed out to her, she could pause her movie, but you can’t pause a sunset. She grabbed a light jacket and I made her a cup of chamomile tea in a travel mug.

We were back at the overlook just as the sky was painted red. A short walk from the pull-off brought us to a rocky outcrop. We sat down and watched the colors of the sky change and the outline of the mountains darken.

I would have posted a picture of that sunset, but I left my cellphone at home.

Good call, I say.

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