Day 145: Age Out

We tackled the kids’ clothes today. Well, two out of three kids, at least–but we did start with the hardest first: our eight-year-old fashionista.

In theory, thinning out the kids’ wardrobe should be easy. After all: as long as they are still growing, all it takes is getting rid of the outfits they have outgrown, right?

Well, that’s almost all it takes. It also requires a commitment to break the cycle and keep replacement purchases to a minimum. We will see how well we do on that second part, but for now, it was quite the purge.

In addition to the outgrown clothing, we also had whole heaps of school uniforms to get rid of. The kids will be moving to a school without uniforms, and even though some of those shirts and skirts and pants still fit, I can pretty much guarantee that the kids will never want to wear those outfits again! We did hold onto a couple of items for each of them, though, now “demoted” to the rank of  nice clothes.

For the most part, we have been just sending off clothes to various donation sites and charities, but for some of these outfits–especially the school uniforms and some of our daughter’s dresses–we decided it would be worth the extra step of dropping them off at a children’s clothing consignment shop around the corner from us.

We ended up with two big trash bags of clothing to bring to consignment, plus another three big bags of donation goods. And as a bonus: we also packed up all of the winter clothing, which will come up with me on my next trip to North Carolina.

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Day 144: Declassify

IMG_2446To be honest, I really wanted to call this entry “defile,” since I’ve already set a precedent of bad puns for titles, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

My wife and I dug in deep today. “The Pods” are arriving in the next few days, so it really is time to make some decisions about what goes with us, what gets tossed, and what ends up in storage. My goal is to have as little as possible in the third category, and only what we really need in the first. We have been making some progress, but if we don’t make some bigger attempts to minimize what we are holding onto, I am afraid by default we will end up loading those pods with stuff that we simply don’t need weighing us down.

I started off the day packing up cassettes and VCR tapes for donation. We actually still have a functional DVD/VCR player, so I held onto a few movies that still get watched occasionally. The cassettes were harder. I mean–I still have one of my very first mix tapes, which must date back to somewhere around 1981 or 1982….

We also got rid of a decent stack of books off of the built-in bookshelves upstairs. All in all, I would say we are close to the halfway mark for books.

But really, the heavy lifting today–figuratively and literally–was in purging our four filing cabinets: two full-size and two half-size. I’ve tackled this task before in fits and starts, but today was the big push…and what a push it was.

I cleared out all sorts of “important” papers, pretty much filling up a large trash bag with documents that will need to be shredded–including tax forms dating back to the 1990s and bank statements from closed accounts in states that I haven’t lived in for decades.

I also wiped out all sorts of work and school related files and documents: grade books from last century, photocopied articles, and lots and lots and lots of notebooks (I kept thinking of David Byrne singing “Life During Wartime”). All of that paper will end up in the mixed paper dumpster at our local recycling center tomorrow.

IMG_2444And finally–the hardest. I dug through years worth of the kids’ school stuff. I absolutely kept quite a few things–mostly drawings or writings that still made me smile when I looked at them again. But I cleared out whole stacks of math sheets and quizzes and tests that just didn’t pass the test of enduring value.

In then end, I managed to empty out our oversized, DOD-compliant, gunmetal gray filing cabinet, which I believe we originally found on the side of the road somewhere. And that’s where it ended up. I dragged it out to the curb around 5pm, and it was gone within a few hours. I could have gotten rid of one of the half-size filing cabinets as well, given how much stuff we ended up tossing away, but we decided to hold onto both of them–for now, at least. We can always change our minds once The Pods arrive, right?

In all fairness, I should note that in going through all of these papers, I did find some documents that are legitimately important and worth holding onto… just as I’m sure that some of the kids’ school work that I saved will bring a smile to my face in the year 2024 and onwards. But by far, the vast majority of what we have been holding onto really had no value to anyone, emotional or otherwise.

So why was I holding onto all of this paper for all of these years?

Why indeed.

 

 

 

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Day 143: Rank

I’ve taken the time, now and then, to reflect on what I’ve written on this blog, and what sorts of patterns or themes I can see emerging. I thought it might be time to do that again, only this time, I’ve decided to reflect on which posts have seemed more meaningful to you.

Of course, I don’t really have a measure of “meaningfulness.” All I have is a measure of which pages have received the most views. So here is what I found:

If I ignore my “About” page as well as views that come to my Home Page/Archives, my Top Ten viewed pages are:

  1. Day 2: Sit
  2. Day 6: Stop
  3. Day 5: Cull
  4. Day 1: Read
  5. Day 4: Provide
  6. Day 3: Quiet
  7. Day 9: Delete
  8. Day 20: Steward
  9. Day 15: Ignore
  10. Day 8: Listen

But that didn’t seem quite fair to the more recent posts. After all, you would expect any blog post from four months ago to have more views than something that was posted just a couple of days ago.

So, knowing just enough about statistics to get myself in trouble, I calculated the average number of views per day, then for each post I calculated the cumulative sum of what I would expect to see for page views if those views were evenly distributed across the total number of posts available on any given day.

Living simply, right?

Anyhow, here is the revised Top Ten List:

  1. Day 2: Sit
  2. Day 6: Stop
  3. Day 5: Cull
  4. Day 137: Discover
  5. Day 112: Expire
  6. Day 99: Unscript
  7. Day 133: Convert
  8. Day 138: Continue
  9. Day 122: Give
  10. Day 20: Steward

Actually, #9 and #10 were tied, along with Day 105: Chip. But hey, it’s not as though I need a 99% confidence interval on these numbers….

I find it interesting that no matter how I count page views, one of my simplest posts has consistently been the most popular. I mean, what could be more simple than trying to build a daily practice of sitting quietly and being mindful in the moment?

Likewise, the simple call to stop at some point in the day, again for quiet, mindful reflection, puts this whole process of living simply into perspective.

A few of the top ten are de-clutter posts, which I suppose is to be expected since I’ve written so much about this process of culling and shedding and clearing. I think I might need a little more time to reflect on why these three posts have caught your attention more than others.

And I think it’s fitting that at least one of my “discipline/practice” posts made this list as well… a reminder of just how much depends upon making a commitment to an ongoing, daily process.

The remainder all seem to touch upon appreciating the moment at hand as fully as possible–be that through acknowledging the gifts others bring to us, or through graciously accepting the gift that is every single day.

As at other times when I have taken a moment to drill down into this blogging process in greater detail, I’m not sure if I’ve really learned anything that will help me live more simply and directly. If nothing else, though, it does provide me with another lens through which to observe myself as I make my way down that path.

And thanks to you for coming along on the journey with me this far. I literally couldn’t have written today’s post without you!

 

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Day 142: Reset

I think I have to reset my clock by a little bit.

I realized today just how not in the moment I have been lately. Everything that I am doing, it seems, is aimed at that date in mid-July when we are supposed to be relocated to our new home. And I suppose it’s easy enough to say that “it’s natural” that I would be focusing so much attention on such an important event… but is it natural to lose sight of the present moment?

I won’t lie to you and say that I became “enlightened” today and started living fully in the moment. Hardly. I’m still feeling pretty overwhelmed with all that I have to get done in what seems like a ridiculously short period of time.

But today I was at least aware that I had some choice in the matter. I could continue to get wound up, dashing frantically from one project to the next, or I could be present for whatever project I happened to be tackling at that moment, and try to focus on just the task at hand.

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Day 141: Sip

IMG_2441There are certainly going to be a few things that I will miss when we move out of the Atlanta area in a few weeks. One of those  things will be my easy access to banh mi sandwiches. Another will most certainly be Dr. Bombay’s Underwater Tea Party.

I had to leave work a little early today to be home in time to pick up our youngest from school. I don’t usually have this duty, but my wife had an afternoon appointment that ran late. When I got to the school to pick her up, I decided that we should take advantage of our “extraordinary” afternoon together by doing something fun. I suggested tea at Dr. Bombay’s. She agreed that it was an excellent idea.

But first, we had one quick, little chore–bring a big load of books to the used book store, and convert them into a couple of books to add to the small stack of books I plan to read over the next twelve months.

As is always the case, the used book store won’t take all that I have to offer. I did pass along twenty or so books, which I traded in for two new titles (Into Thin Air and Seven Years in Tibet). That left me with quite a stack of rejected books, though, which I would have to pass along some other way.

With our book swap behind us, off we went to Dr. Bombay’s. It’s a quirky, little shop in a quirky corner of town, with great food and great spirit. My daughter got the raspberry tea (with a side of ice cream, of course). I got the lapsang, with an order of samosas.

So there we were, sitting at our table and sipping our tea, when I looked up and noticed all the books! I had forgotten that in addition to donating a portion of their profits to support their education program for young women in India, the shop also donates 100% of the money they raise selling used books, all of which have been donated by patrons.

And my car was sitting right out front of the shop, loaded down with books!

In a flash, I was back in the store with a stack of books, this time hopefully destined to be converted into school supplies and uniforms.

It did not amount to the most significant donation of our super-abudance by volume or by weight, that’s for sure….

But it was certainly the most serendipitous.

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Day 140: Trudge

Today is just a one-foot-in-front-of-the-other kind of day.

I’ve yanked down another twenty books–I’ve cleared half of the bookshelf I wanted to empty out…and with each book I take town, the harder it gets.

I also tackled another closet–a mish-mash of crafts, puzzles, games, and housewares. A good portion of the junk in there went straight into the trash. The remainder: off to the (now enormous) pile of donation goods that will be leaving the house at week’s end.

There’s nothing audacious or uplifting about this part of the process I’m working through. It’s just trudging along, one step after the other.

I’m not exactly sure why I’m thinking of Emerson’s essay “Circles” as I write this blog post, except maybe as a testimony to the fact that any “achievement” is really nothing more than a waypoint in an ongoing journey. But since I could use a little philosophy after such a mundane day of clean-up, here’s my favorite passage, from the close of the essay:

The one thing which we seek with insatiable desire is to forget ourselves, to be surprised out of our propriety, to lose our sempiternal memory and to do something without knowing how or why; in short to draw a new circle. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. The way of life is wonderful. It is by abandonment.

As I reread this passage, I’m forced to ask myself: in all of this de-cluttering and simplifying, am I getting too caught up in the “chore” of it all, or am I still embracing this process as a large scale “letting go”?

Or to put it another way: can I continue to trudge along this road and still maintain enthusiasm?

A good question indeed!

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Day 139: Recruit

Ok, I know I have already written about the importance of gaining allies in the house as we take steps as a family toward living more simply. Today, though, I’ve gone a step further: I’m enlisting recruits.

If you’ve been following along for the past twenty weeks, you know that Mondays are the hardest day for me to dig into any kind of major de-clutter project. So today, I grabbed my youngest and a big, plastic trash bag and wandered into the maelstrom of clothing and stuffed animals that we call her bedroom.

The ceiling drops low at one end of her room, and the previous owners closed off this space at both ends, leaving the middle section open–sort of like eaves, only carpeted and well-lit. It’s not a very useful space, to be honest, but it makes for a great play space for an eight-year-old girl. It also makes for a great place to let lots and lots of unused toys pile up.

So that was my daughter’s job tonight–get rid of every toy, doll, block, or puzzle that had outlived its fun, and pack it up to be donated to someone else.

She had a blast. I helped her, I admit, and I’m sure that was part of the reason why this clean-up job was so much fun. Contrary to my expectations, she had no problem shedding a vast majority of what had piled up in the dozen or so storage bins in this play space. At the end of the process, what she held onto fit in a single bin–that’s less than 10% of what she started with.

I sincerely doubt I will get anywhere close to that mark when I finish culling my books….

It’s pretty typical of me to try to do things by myself. And of course, in the long run, that’s never the best strategy. Particularly in this instance. The more opportunities I can give my kids to involve them in this process, the more likely I am to have allies in living a more simple life, one that is a little less burdened with the weight of unnecessary things.

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Day 138: Continue

We got back to our (Atlanta) home around 8pm tonight, which left me just enough time to to pull together another bag of donation clothing before the charity pick-up later this week. After coming face-to-face with the difference in scale that we will be facing once we move, I’ve found the motivation to reduce even further what I plan to keep. So tonight, I managed to shed an additional:

  • five pairs of shorts
  • two pairs of sweatpants
  • four pairs of pants
  • eight shirts
  • two t-shirts
  • two pairs of socks, plus one stray that never found its mate

I also managed to pull off the shelves ten more books, which I will attempt to convert into one must-read title. That may not seem like a lot, but after 300 miles of driving, I’m calling it a success.

I’m thinking after the donation pick-up this week, the rest of the stuff I manage to sort through over the next few days will probably end up in our one-and-only yard sale, which I think I can pull off on this Sunday. The goal here isn’t to turn “trash into treasure”; ideally it will provide us with an opportunity to get rid of some larger items in our house without hauling them away ourselves.

It’s been an interesting balancing act over the past few months–there are days when “living simply” has meant focusing on contemplative practices. Other times it has been all about bathroom closets and basement clutter. I think as long as I make sure that one approach doesn’t undermine the other–or more accurately, I suppose: as long as I make sure each supports the other–I figure I am in good shape.

 

 

 

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Day 137: Discover

IMG_2414Today, I “discovered” Little Wilson–much in the same way Columbus “discovered” the New World, I suppose.

I have made three different attempts to find the trailhead for this particular crag, and today–equipped with a couple of reliable leads, my two sons and I finally found it. To be honest, the trailhead was so obvious and so well-marked, it was somewhat embarrassing that I’ve overlooked it three times. Guaranteed though: we will be down this way again!

The hike down was quite nice, about half of it running beside the Little Wilson Creek with its multiple waterfalls. And the crag itself is really fun as well–big blocks of granite with interesting route lines, and at a grade that we can all climb.

IMG_2413The rock was pretty wet still from the steady rain we had all day on Thursday–which made for beautiful falls, but not such great climbing. In fact, we only climbed two routes, and my younger boy passed entirely. Then we took our sandwiches over to a rock slab in the middle of the creek and had a lazy lunch.

What kept dawning on me all morning at the crag–and later in the day, when I dropped the boys off at a trout lake to spend a couple of hours fishing–was that everything around me was going to be in my backyard in just a few weeks.

I’ve spent more than half of my life living in one major metropolitan area or another–and a majority of the remaining years in some flavor of suburbia. I’ve had a few friends ask me: how are you going to adjust to moving from a big city to small, rural town? I suppose I won’t know the answer until I’m in the midst of it, but for now I think my answer has to be:

Quite nicely, I believe. Thanks.

I suppose I am discovering something about myself as well. And just like Little Wilson, that trailhead has probably been just as obvious all along.

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Day 136: Allow

OK, I’ve had three different false starts on today’s entry, and to be honest, each of my attempts has felt just a little to forced or inauthentic.

It’s been a busy day, but a good day as well. And I think it is time for me to call it a day. I know I’ve made this move this once before in the past 136 days–giving myself the right to skip an entry….

And I’m going to allow myself to exercise that right once again!

 

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